Ditto, TSO. I wish you the same. I wish you peace in the heart of you and your children.
Stay calm, state your case and leave. Remember, your words, body language, EVERYTHING has POWER. Use it wisely. Be clear, kind and firm. Above all, speak from your heart.
Be sure to ask him to do things you KNOW he can do....ex: can you ask him to stop the A? Or can you simply ask him the matter at hand tonight? "Hey, H, if you call to make a committment to ANYTHING, mean it, or don't bother calling at all--the kids are getting anxious." Maybe, you should ask him to speak to the kids instead of YOU making excuses and explaining.
