You guys are just great!! Always, I will make a point to contact/call you today. I really enjoy your words of wisdom.

1. Communion. I asked him nicely if he wanted to go. He said no. I was fine with that and told him so. It was not like me to go by myself, but I did (180) and the kids and I had a great time with my family and friends.

2. I didn't even no that he came home Saturday night until I woke up on Sunday and he was in bed. I asked him what time did he get in and when he told me he said that he was sure that the doors would be bolted and was prepared to sleep in his car. I did not make an issue out of it, like I normally would have I DID say that I sure hope he doesn't start doing this again but it was not a demand so if he does there is not much I can do about it. He had a really bad hangover so I told him to go back to bed.

3. When he got up he was hungry and said he'd like to take us out to lunch. Had a nice time, talked about the party and updated him on everyone's life. When we got home he did yard work and I took the kids to the park. When we got back he said he missed us and was thinking of coming to look for us but didn't know which park we were at. The rest of the evening was nice.

I told my best friend (she is also my neighbor) about situation and she says, just sit back and observe. She has noticed how much his attitude has changed and how much more we are doing things together. She said it sucks, but don't bring anything up right now. Like you said, Always, I cannot CONTROL him or his actions. So I will just put info in a file folder in the back of my mind for now.

I love all the homework ideas you gave me. Great stuff, it will keep my mind off of things. Can you tell I obsess alot? You are right, my H is not committed to the M, at least not to the degree that I am. So I will lovingly detach. I definitely do not want to appear to him as the "PANICKED WOMEN" running after him. No Way! As far as babysitting, I am done as of June 7th. Therefore I need to find a new way to earn a little cash. Any ideas, since my 3 kids will be home for the summer? I AM a strong women, H even told me so a couple of weeks ago when he told me he didn't think I needed to continue couseling. I interpreted it as he thinks I am strong for putting up with his crap and having enough integrity to fight for my marriage.

I will once again, find the inner strength and patience to get thru yet another hurdle in my life.