Ok, Saturday I was posting on Always thread, but for an update. H went out friday, bank info shows he withdrew $100 from an ATM at the mall plus purchased something for $50 from Starbucks. Friday evening he had no cash nor a starbucks card. Saturday he didn't want to go to a family party with us - he went out, didn't get home till after 2:00 a.m.. One upshot, although I believe it is to pull the wool over my eyes, he bought me a dozen roses (which he paid for Sunday morning - did not come from the $100) and a nice mother's day card and even wrote "ILY" in it. He left the house to run an errand around noon, and I checked (yes I snooped), he called OW. I know she has a daughter so obviously he bought her a gift on Friday with the $ and was calling her to wish her a happy M-Day.
Now that I have calmed down, what to do? It appears to me that they have started up again. This I will not tolerate. Do I ask him? I know he will lie but I want him to be aware that I'm not stupid. OR do I TELL him that I know and will not tolerate it anymore and give him an ultimatum 1) We go to MC and work on our marriage or 2) he move out.
Some wise advice is definitely needed so I don't do something I may regret later. Thanks.
