GH, no matter when I log on I can always count on you, thanks!
Quote: You say he is giving you every indication that the A is over, and your relationship is growing, right? Has he actually SAID the A was over, and if so, have you and he talked about what that really means to each of you?
Actually, he has never admitted to an A. He as always maintained that "it is not what I think". Well, we all know better, right. Anyway, I am stuck in this limbo and I don't like it anymore. While I don't want him to think that I'm ok with things as they are and that he can continue whatever R him and the OW have I want him to know that I need more. I know am pretty certain that he has had a midlife transition or crisis and was questioning everything in his life, he was possibly also suffering from some form of depression and self medicating with going out every night, drinking, spending tons of money and having a R with an OW. I understand all of this and am quite compassionate and am willing to forgive and forget. But I seem "stuck in the moment and I can't get out of it" (U2) - anyway, if things don't change soon I may go into my own MLC, I am 43 years old and I don't want to spend the rest of my life living with my "brother". Ya know what I mean?
Is it fear on my part of not just jumping his bones? Is that what he is waiting for? If so, he doesn't give any indications.
Today on the phone I asked him if he thought things were getting better between us. He said yes, and that he really liked doing the home improvement projects with me. I told him if he wanted to talk, about anything, that I was there to listen. He didn't really take the bait, so here I remain, in limboland....
