Quote: I did not understand or realize my H's sensitivities and vulnerabilities, and I too let my anger out at him in ways that he could not handle and that hurt him terribly. I think my H was trying to take care of me for a long time by "not leaving" and inside he was suffering and I didn't realize what he needed. I don't know if he ever will tell me (which is a great deal of my sadness today - I have had insights now, and I want him to care about them and find out about them - I want him to make it not "too late"). If that is ever going to occur, I must be very very patient (not my former strong suit).
PL: I am in the EXACT same place. I have seen some of my doing in this mess, and I would love nothing more than the chance to make it up to him. It breaks my heart to be faced with his cold, indifferent and hardened heart--I see he wants to be loved, but he's too scared and angry and resentful to let it happen.
In the meantime, I'm ready for that roadtrip!! In fact, I'll be driving across country in 4 weeks with 2 girls I know. To the boring state of Kansas, but hey, it's a start!!
Thanks, Mama, for helping us all. I am interested to see if there are any responses by LBS's on how to deal with the MLC'ers.
I'm off to the BBQ--you girls have a great Sunday!!
