I ask myself that probably a thousand times a day. I keep telling myself that it isn't the man I love that wants to leave, it's the Alien that has taken him. Sounds a little silly, but it works. I see him as so unhappy and confused that his brain has shut down and he's thinking instead with his arse. And yeah, if he were thinking with his brain, logic would make sense to yours and to mine. But as others have pointed out to me (over and over again) logic isn't working for them. Someday, the arse/alien might let go and they'll start seeing the light. Then maybe the logic of "If you want to stay, you should want to make it better..." might stick. It might not help you much, but it gets me through the critical moments. Until the day they realize working on it makes sense, it seems like we're kinda stuck. Hugs, TSO
