You know, you may have something there. I don't know if this is what you meant but now I am thinking that my W MUST know I want her because of all that I say or do but then again, she may be thinking the same thing though NEITHER of us have ever just come out and said what we want. Maybe if Mama and I just come out and tell our spouses what we want, we may be surprised to find out that they either had no idea or were just as confused as we are. Thanks for that, even if it's not what you meant.