Quote: I know what you want and you know what I want. Doesn't that make sense? Now, to convey this message to my H.....
"H, I really want you to know how passionate I am towards you and how much I want to share intimacy with you, from snuggling on the couch to great sex. I want it all and I want it with you. I know we have had our problems in this area and I want to work on those so that we don't have the SAME marriage we had before. I want all that but I want to know that you are ready for it so I think I need to tell you these things. Even so, I am confused about what to do next. I am afraid that even telling you this will seem like pressure and that's not what this is about. It's about me telling you how I feel so that I am sure none of my actions or words are misunderstood because sometimes I need to do things for me that may seem contradictory to these desires of mine. I hope you understand that these are things I WANT, not need from you. I hope we can have this in the future and if you want to tell me your wants and needs, I would be glad to listen with an open mind."
Ok, that is something like what you could say but does that sound needy? What I struggle with is how to be passionate and yet not be needy. I guess I equate passion with need on some level. To want something so much but NOT need it on some level is a somewhat foreign concept to me.
