Yes, mind reading is bad. I think that could be how we all ended up here. Me, you and our spouses all did a little mind reading and instead of being straight forward we all went about our lives thinking we knew everything when in fact we knew nothing. Our WAS's felt unloved, unappreciated and unfulfilled and looked elsewhere because they thought we didn't care. We thought everything was ok, not great, but ok. Then the bombs dropped. If only we all knew how to communicate with eachother. Instead there is a lot of pain and heartbreak. The what if's.....if only's....Well we cannot go back and change the past. What we can do is control the here and now and the future. I don't want to be a mind reader and I don't want to assume that my H knows what I want either. We must find a nonconfrontational way to let our S's know our feelings. No strings attached, no expectations. Just this is what we are thinking and feeling and this is what we would like in our R. End of story. Now the ball is in their court. If we are fortunate enough they will do the same for us. Now we are on an even playing field. I know what you want and you know what I want. Doesn't that make sense? Now, to convey this message to my H.....
