Quote: I agree with GH, it really does come down to recognizing what your H's LL is and building it up.
I guess that's what we are expecting, that our W's will DO that and they simply are not either the kind of people who will do it, or they are not at a place where they can/will. Whatever the case, it comes down to wanting to fulfill the needs of your partner and I feel like no matter HOW bad it's gotten in our M, and I guess I didn't know how bad it was, my issues/mistakes were born of ignorance than lack of caring. I always tried to meet my W's needs but my error was in not understanding what those needs were and instead offering "love" the same way I wanted to receive it. Only since all this began did I understand that. Now that I do, I see that W MAY be thinking she's meeting my needs by keeping the house clean, paying the bills and taking care of the kids, but those are more about HER needs than mine.
Like Rob said, I just wish she would put out a 10th of the effort to discover what makes me tick as I have recently in respect to her, and then act on that. Once again, I feel like I have a hybrid love motor that needs gas (her showing a LITTLE bit of love) to get me going and then I am good to run on my own internal power until the next time I need a little start up again. Is that too much to ask for?
