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I would be FINE, more than fine really, if my W just showed a tiny bit of interest in me. That's all I would need to feel like initiating most, or even all the time. It's not that I feel unsafe, I just feel unloved. I mean I guess I know she loves(ed) me but with no physical manifestation of that love it becomes harder to believe that.




Amen to that. This is more or less the issue between W and I and it has been for quite some time. I know and she ackowledges that she has always had a hard time being affectionate and intimate....sadly, it truly is my LL as well. In many ways, I do believe it lead to a breakdown in our R before.

I agree with GH, it really does come down to recognizing what your H's LL is and building it up.

"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu