Quote: You snoop to back up his claims that things are "over" between them. I submit that he may lie and tell you this or that, but instead of his intent being to deceive you in order to continue the affair, he may be lying to spare you unnecessary grief over something that will LOOK like something it's not.
That could be why he keeps telling me "it's not what you think it is". He has given me enough indications (things I haven't even posted) to show me that he has no intention of leaving. So I will have to learn to back off a little and let him deal with OW as he sees fit. Again, I am not his mother and cannot tell him who he can or cannot talk to. Since they work together maybe they are just talking about work related stuff OR since he really is/was a sweet guy he could be just letting her down easy by trying to be her friend. Who knows...I'll continue to do what I have been doing and just take each day as it comes.
