Quote: During all this I somehow stay even keeled in his presence while I watch him destroy everything we have created, and he has decided that I'm not so bad, we can be 'friends'. So he gets OW for 'love' and me for security and stability.
-- Over time it becomes clear that my supportiveness is enabling him to live his fantasy life where all is good and OW is 'the one'.
Borrowed the above from another thread and changed the she/her to he/him. This is kind of how I feel, like an enabler. I take care of everything; kids, animals, house, bills, yardwork, lightbulbs, laundry..........so he can have is cake and eat it too
