I was lurking on other threads and found this very helpful. It was written by COG under Divorce Busted After 3 Years.
Quote: I think it depends on what we let go of. Letting go of fear, neediness, selfishness, control, anxiety, rejectedness, expectations, anger, resentment, etc. will allow YOU to see your H in another light. It took a long time for me, but I did it. By doing so I allowed myself to become joyful, supportive, friendly, strong, confident, and I basically "got a life". Now, I think if you "let go" of hope for your M, then that allows you to do some negative things like dating, acting anyway you want because you don't care, etc. Letting go absolutely does not mean giving up.
