Doobie, it is usually best to just keep posting to one thread. It makes it hard to follow you if you keep creating new threads each time you post something new.
Hang in there and realize that this is called a roller coaster for a reason. It's hard, it really is.
Now, I am confused, your H planned this trip, which you suspect is his way of reaching out to you, then he blows up like that. When he told you about the trip, was he in a good mood? How long after that was the pizza thing?
Like I said, stay on this thread, keep posting to it and you will get more people stopping in to help.