To the brink of Divorce

[StrongEnough]

I don't know much about the two years. It's been my experience that the euphoria wears off sooner. He is on OW2 so again, he could be chasing the euphoria.

I think H recognizes his mistakes with the kids, but he works 55+ hours a week so rebuilding is a problem. He is also short-fused with them, and I am not too sure why. It used to be me who had no tolerance, but now the roles are reversed. The only thing I could do for my kids when we were in that situation was to sympathize with them, remind them that he loves them, and be there for them when it was their time with me. It was mostly just my D since my S was an infant. But I made sure to give her extra attention and talked to her constantly about how she felt and where she was with what was going on. I found there was no way to explain or justify his actions without sounding like I was for or against what was going on, and I didn't want her to feel I was either. So instead I shared in her sorrow and we held each other up.

No big surprise....but we used to crank Cher's "Strong Enough" and her and I would sing and dance around the living room to that song. It was really a positive release for the both of us and usually put us in a place where we could laugh at ourselves instead of crying over our situation.

But, that's just me and that's how I handled it. Only you know what's right or wrong for your kids and your situation.

Hope this helped some.

~SE