SE Thanks for your reply. you say your H started to come back to you after you found someone else but what you don't say is if you have (will) taken him back or if it is too late b/c you have moved on. I do sincerely hope that my sitch does not come to a D and then a reconiliation but if that is the way that is has to go then so be it. As you will glean from that last sentence my PMA this week is somewhat higher than last. I've just come back from a fabuolous 'adventure' weekend away. I'm sure that soon real life will kick back in. I really and truly am here to learn from those who have gone before me so all advice (no matter whether it be good or bad news) is alway very welcome.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15