To the brink of Divorce

[StrongEnough]

Hi Alison.........sorry to hear about your story.

I am even more sorry to be the bearer of some "bad news" here. My H "fell in love" and had an A with my friend. After a month or two of him telling me constantly he wanted a D, he did not love me anymore, etc. I filed. We went to court and got our D approved by the judge. As his R with OW slowly fizzled out....he started coming around more. He started lingering when dropping off the kids, emailing me or calling me for "advice" or "someone to talk to". Even called me to be by his side when he tried to commit suicide. Somehow, when I was ready to commit to marrying another man that I had been dating and was in love with, he came running back and had me questioning my feelings, thoughts and intentions.

Long story short...it just gives merit to sometimes a D isn't the end....it's a new beginning. IF you get D'd, just try to look at it as you are d'ing your old life and your old M....and getting a chance at a fresh start with a new you and new life to be happy with. When he sees that, he may then come back as so many WAS's do.

Never give up if it's what you believe in. Go along for the ride and handle it with as much grace, style and flair as you can muster. Watch how much respect your H will eventually give you for it!!!

Hope this helps some.