Quote: it is amazing how complex we humans can make things just to avoid conflict/pain....
Sooooooo true!
You know, I'm fine with the Direct Talk and Boundary Enforcement, right up until the point that the other person starts defending why they did whatever they did in the first place. Then the people pleaser in me comes *screamin* out and I hear myself start defending them too! Which only gives them reason to doubt the firmness of my boundary and plants the seeds for the next time they'll test it out. Stupid, honey!
I am eminently uncomfortable with other people's discomfort. Never want anyone else to feel bad. Being an opinionated, domineering female this can get hard--don't want to hurt anyone yet I can't keep my mouth shut.
Good luck with your boundary, sis. Picture it as that concrete wall in Houston next time you are tempted to let something slide. That sucker didn't give you any slack, now did it!
