The Chrissy household has grown in the last few days. Well grew more animals that is.
Found some baby kittens down in a drain pipe a few days ago. Had to pull the grate up and one of the kids went down and got them. I am now nursing all 4 of them with a eye dropper. My daughters little taco dog who is a male loves them. Which is odd to watch. Hopefully I can find homes for them when they get bigger. Anyone in need of a kitten?
Thank you for that link with just a brief overview I have learned something. I did not know in NC you did not need reason for divorce. That is awesome that one does not have to drag all the baggage into the court room.
Thank you for taking the time and finding this link for me.
Missouri is a "no fault" divorce state (I think the majority of US states are, now). The only time the "fault" (e.g. adultery, abuse) comes out in these states is when you have a dispute regarding property or child custody/visitation issues.
Aside from GEL and her lead pipe, I think your best "weapon" right now is gaining insight and information on the process of separation/divorce, and on the risks associated with having a person in the process who is violent/abusive.
I think I speak for a lot of us here when I say, I'm a bit worried about you.
Quote: I think I speak for a lot of us here when I say, I'm a bit worried about you.
Me too. I'm no expert, but I wish she'd do what GEL did; wait until he's gone or asleep, toss the kids and kittens into the car, grab as much cash as she can, and drive and keep on driving.....
I think I speak for a lot of us here when I say, I'm a bit worried about you
No worries yet I am keeping a low profile. I have learned from the past this is not one of those things I am going to talk over with the H and try to get things worked out in advance. Until I am ready to make the move I am not making any waves. Gonna go more for the vacate then notify approach this go round. Thinking that is my safest best.
Darn I have to take the kittens heck I am dropping them off at your house then lol.
It is going to take a while to be prepared. Gonna have to wait for the kids to get out of school so that gives me a few weeks to get all my ducks in a row. I have a little bit of money I have put up for a rainy day. That with my little piddly pay checks I should start getting from the farm in a week or so will have to do for cash. I really don't want to but was thinking about applying for a low income apartment. Not sure if I would feel safe for my kids in that type of place. Most of them in this area are drug infested. I need to find a better job my little 15-20 hour a week one is not going to cut it being out on my own. But is better then nothing at the moment. And since I am going to have to stay local because of the kids I will work it until I find a better one. I wish my family was here to help out but going there is out of the question I doubt the H will allow me to take the kids out of state long term.
Dang Chrissy, wish I could help in some way. I'd offer to let you stay with us, but I don't know how well my W would respond to "This is Chrissy who I met on a marriage problems website and who is separating from her H and worried about he might do to her." Do you have any friends you could stay with temporarily? I know that if any of my friends needed a place to stay during this sort of transitional period, I wouldn't hesitate. Can you get some assistance from a local church for awhile? If you lived near me, I know our church would glady help out with rent/utilities for a couple months until you found a better job.
Like the others, I am worried about you.
Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
How sweet and funny at the same time. Oh I could just see your wifes face lol.
I would not imposse on my friends do to my H and his past behavior of calling everyone I knew. I am sure I can get assistance of some sort from the state I already do get some for my son that is handicapped. He gets SSI and the state pays the portion of his medical bills and medicines that our private insurance does not. Which saves me about $800.00 a month just in medicines.
If I relocated into a bigger city I could find a good job more easily. But I would loose the small school enviroment that helps Austin stay mainstreamed into regular classes. I would rather be broke and him be treated as normal as possible.
I will be fine I will find a way to pull it all off. As long as I plan ahead.
Thank you for the kind sentiments. It was very sweet
You were thinking about me because you could sense I was eatting chocolate lol. M$M's and me are new best friends this week.
Truthfully I am feeling better then I have in a while. Less stressed out. I guess all that what should I do's and what if's were taking more out of me then I realized. I feel much calmer now that I have decided I don't want to remain living like this. I don't feel like I am expending energy into a hopeless situation.
Now if I could just motivate my ass into cleaning life would be looking up lol! Actually today I am going to be sorting through pictures and so forth. And mentally making notes on what I want to take with me and I have the room to take lol.
