North Carolina requires you to be seperated for a year before you can get a divorce. And it has to be a legal seperation. If I can file it myself I won't even need a attorney Same in NY. Although you may get D without the year wait if you have grounds such as adultery/abuse, etc. Maybe it is the same in your state. As for not using a lawyer, well, we had to file a seperation agreement in which we both agreed to all the terms and we both had to sign. I don't think you can file a separation agreement on your own because that is basically the document in which you figure out the money issues, division of assets, kids visitation, all that fun stuff. We were able to complete that without a lawyer but that is very rare. If your H is not in agreement, you need representation, I would think.
