I agree that Chrissy needs to be careful. I am assuming she feels comfortable enough to stay in the house and not have a fear of injury, which I guess I should have stated in my post. If he ever gets the least bit violent, I think she does need to get the police involved, whether he actually strikes her or not. A restraining order makes sense. Yes, she needs to play it conservative, just in case.
What I am saying is if she thinks it is safe enough to stay, then this guy is bluff. If he is too dangerous to risk a bluff, then we don’t need to have this conversation at all. She needs to just get out.
She is scared which is just what he wants. As she says, he only gets threatening if she tries to leave the marriage. That tells me he really does not want to hurt her but scare her into staying. Chrissy, I’m glad to hear that you have taken a stand against him. Things could actually be worse if you hadn’t. But you know this is a fine line, in stopping him from going too far versus not pushing back too hard and risking him explode. No one can live under that pressure. But if you choose to do so, then I think you’ve got to find a way to get your message across.
I think you are doing the right thing in searching for a lawyer even if you don’t get divorced. You still need to know your options. If I were you, I’d think twice about using public lawyers, unless you think this might be enough to wake him up. Otherwise go find the best around. Can you put the legal fees on a credit card? Worry about the money later. Your H will have to pay half of it anyway.
