You responded just fine. The underlying chance of physical fear does not invalidate anything you have said. If I were in a situation that my H physically abused me on a daily or regular basis maybe what people have said would not apply. My H's abuse lies more within the realm of verbal abuse control and manipulations and threatening behavior. The only times it has turned physical is when I attempt to leave and then only if my H's other control tatics dont seem to be working. So most peoples replies still apply to my sitch.
I am sorry your H speaks to you meanly. To me verbal abuse is so much harder to overcome then actual physical abuse. My first H was very physically abusive (leave it to me to attract all of the nut cases). His blows never hurt as much as his words did. Nor did the effects of them last as long as the effects of his words.
Therefore, I have to deal with a certain level of fear when I bring up these issues also.
That sucks. Seems like a person should be able to talk about anything with there spouses of all people without having to fear them or there behaviors.
However, I must add that if I really thought that he would hurt me physically, I would choose to leave the relationship rather than try to fix it.
That is my catch 22. The only time I really have to fear my H is if I try to leave him. Desperate people do desperate things.
