I'm sorry if I didn't respond to your post in an understanding fashion regarding your level of fear due to having not read back far enough in your posts. Though I might make the point that my LD husband has on occasion been verbally abusive (told me I'm too fat, called me a c*nt)and violently broken things (including a countertop that was over 100 years old ) when I've addressed the lack of sex issue in a direct Schnarchian way. Therefore, I have to deal with a certain level of fear when I bring up these issues also. However, I must add that if I really thought that he would hurt me physically, I would choose to leave the relationship rather than try to fix it.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
) when I've addressed the lack of sex issue in a direct Schnarchian way. Therefore, I have to deal with a certain level of fear when I bring up these issues also. However, I must add that if I really thought that he would hurt me physically, I would choose to leave the relationship rather than try to fix it. 