Quote: And since this negative outlook of him has spilled into the bedroom it effects our sex life also.
Chrissy, I think your negative outlook is entirely reality-based. Some of us on this board don't bring things up for "fear" of how our partners will react. But most of us do not really fear for our physical safety. We fear disturbing the comfort zone or upsetting the apple cart. Your fear is based on his past behavior and fear of how he might react in the future. Was it Schnarch who said, "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior"?
