What you said makes perfect sense. Yes if anyone could make my H understand I would want and encourage them to do so.
Happy has so much bad from his own behavior to battle. I understand that it is hard to not be wanted. But I also understand how it is to made to not want someone you love. It starts with small things like really not feeling like it one night (when you still have a decent sex life)and having to put up with pouting or anger then another time then as your resentment starts to build it snowballs over time so all you do is reject that person. You look at sex with distaste in your mouth. You will do anything to avoid it. Even if you once loved having sex with your spouse. I can promise you that every time Happy has sex with his wife under the circumstances he is putting a nail in the coffin of his relationship.
Look at me Lil I am not HD nor LD. I am activly slipping into LD behaviors that people all mention around here. Avoiding sex because of other issues. Putting on clothes to sleep in. Avoiding all physical touch even at the risk of breaking my neck trying to sleep on the edge of the bed I am willing to do it all. Just to try to get my H to take note there is a problem here. But sadly I have done this before and just like before it is not gonna work. Neither does the in betweens of being LD and HD in this relationship so though I could probably tell you some things that might help Happy see that his wife probably hates/loves him. I am the last one that can help him figure out how to fix it.
