It's hard seeing your pain and frustration over this. Hard to but try not to dwell on your feelings of hopelessness.
H is in very bad denial right now, judging from his sex comments. He truly does not realize where you are emotionally and mentally as he is shielding himself greatly from even thinking about the consequences. Part of him is convinced you are crying wolf IMO and that is doing an horrible disservice to his ability to empathize or listen.
It's not a slight on his character. He's a good guy who is unconsciously defaulting to self-protect and deny mode.
Gotta try and crack his walls. He is seeing, hearing, speaking no evil, in a manner of speaking. As I said a while ago, you write/express very well.
Put it all down on paper. He needs to have something in the event you separate to read and re-read. IMO it will hit him like an megaton nuke when he is all alone and wondering what the hell happened and why this suddenly seemed to come out of the blue...of course, which it didn't.
He's in an fog.
-Stigmata-
The difference between a warrior and an ordinary man is the warrior views everything as a challenge; the ordinary man views everything as either a blessing or a curse.
-Yaqui shaman Don Juan-
...and that holds 2x true for nice guy wussies, DJ
