Luv, stop waiting for your H to change. It is unfair of you to ask him to be what he is not, just as it is unfair of him to ask of you to be what you are not.
Go sleep in another room.
OR
If he asks, and you are willing, make it about YOU. Take the lead, make it how YOU want it, and go for it.
Otherwise, speak up, be blunt, be clear... but make it about YOU and not HIM. YOU can't have sex. Not him. YOU are having the problem, NOT him. If you don't like the way things are going, CHANGE it. Take charge. If you can't handle that right now... no biggie... it's cool.... just say so... but DO something about it so he understands that you are actually HAVING a problem...
Conflict avoidance will do nothing but delay and prolong pain... AND multiply it.
