It seems to me that you can get word to your ex that you do not want contact right now. When my H first left here he kept bouncing back around like Tigger. It was making me sick inside. I just couldn't handle the strain it had on my mental well-being and my heart. Because I was a coward - his son was more than happy to let him have it and tell him to not come around here while I am here.
IT HELPED TREMENDOUSLY with a level of healing that I don't think could have happened otherwise.
Now he comes around and it's ok.........but that can change again.........and it may, actually. I might be able to say - I need some space - my heart is hurting again.
You don't have to have him call you at all. Ask him to call only if it's some kind of emergency - but for now you are trying to make sense out of your new life which doesn't include him! That's the way he wanted it.....that's what he got!
Things may be different later on. You'll know when they are. Then you can deal with things differently on down the road.
Hang in there NLF - you are on the road to healing.
hugs,
brue
I'm alive, I'm happy - why shouldn't I tell the world I've got my head screwed back on just fine. Life is good for the Brue!
