Journal H calls again!!! (And I did not use the technique I mentioned in the previous post; I kind of lashed out at him) What is it with this man...does he not know the meaning of the word "divorced". The topic of this call was that I did not have to mail him a copy of a document...so what if I had mailed it; he could have thrown it away!! He sure did not mind "wasting my time" prior to the d when he negelected to help with all the work of home maintenance.
I wish I could talk to Ss and have them relay a message to h to not call me. But I guess I have to put on my "big girl" pants and do it myself! I was fairly sharp with him during the last call but I did not deliver the "do not call" message.
In theory, I am sympathetic to his being alone and disconnected from his children; it is sad. In practice, I can not stand his constant focus on himself, which comes through in most of what he says. He'll have to adjust to the new definition of "family" just like I am doing. The only difference is that I knew that our new family dynamic would be difficult and he thought it would be just fine. He really believed that our relationships with our children would be just as warm as always.
As far as MLC goes, h's behavior is not reconnecting. He is still self-centered, as he has been in recent years. And I am still wrestling with 'forgiveness, from a distance'. Translation: I forgive you as long as you don't get my dander up!
NLF
You must grow in patience when you meet with great wrongs, and they will then be powerless to vex your mind. ---Leonardo da Vinci
