Thanks for the post. How timely!! About hating to see the xh so "confused" and not wanting to add anymore, that is it exactly! It is so difficult to see someone once loved so painfully out of the loop and not on a good path. However, if a WAS has a few lucid moments and wants to contact, should a DBing LBS be available, or should the LBS be protective of themselves. How do we know what a lucid moment is? Just pondering here. Thanks Micky for dropping by.
Journal: I learned on another thread about speaking the "microscopic truth" which means that 1) I understand the reason for h's contact, 2) I appreciate his attempt to do, follow up, inform, etc 3) I have had an unexpected reaction to hearing h's voice, or receiving his email, 4) My unexpected reaction is ...crying, or feeling sick, or punched in the stomach, etc. 5) My reason for this is that I feel betrayed, cast aside, etc. 6) I do not want to have these strong negative responses, therefore in any future emergency, you may use email, text, vm at office, etc.
This will work for me, miss mealy-mouth who did not stand up for herself.
NLF
You must grow in patience when you meet with great wrongs, and they will then be powerless to vex your mind. ---Leonardo da Vinci
