Grrrr. I have had 2 contacts with H and it was not pleasant. Over the weekend, I listened to his vm, and thought "I am SO glad that I do not have to put up with him now." He was "inconvenienced' when he had to wait 10 min. for the bank to open so that he could find out about the one acct that is still "joint". His irritation over something so ordinary like waiting 10 min, well, it just speaks volumns about permanent, unpleasing elements of his personality.
Then H called today to relay that one of his former co-workers has been admitted to a hospice and the end is near. I barely knew OF this guy, let alone knew him. So why did H call me? I think there is no one else in his life right now who would know/care about it. I felt like asking H why he called me, but I refrained from any negative comment.
Why do I do that...shy away from expressing my true feelings to him, as in saying to him "don't call me". His contacts upset me. I have a right to my privacy. I would rather think about him in theory and develop an attitude of forgiveness from a distance. That is a safer place for me. Otherwise, I 'get in a twirl' as my best friend says.
NLF
You must grow in patience when you meet with great wrongs, and they will then be powerless to vex your mind. ---Leonardo da Vinci
