Thanks for visiting my thread again. I hear you about tussling with that definition, 'cause it puts the ball squarely in our court.
Another thing that helps me is that forgiveness is for us, according to all I read/am reading. It is for us to move forward, and it has nothing to do with the other person. This helps me too, or at least it makes me want to forgive.
Also, I have read that forgiveness is essential to fully processing grief. So again, I want to be there eventually, even though I might need to nurse a few of my grudges for awhile longer!
Hope this helps, I'm reading daily on it right now because I can tell I need it. Let me know if I bore you, I am thick-skinned.
