Thanks for your very timely and supportive post on my thread--I'm going to respond more fully over there. Just wanted to come by and see if I could return the favor.
So, I'll repeat some of what you said to me! Just processing emotions in light of new insights is huge growth. I'm so impressed that you can admit to more complicated emotions--relief, sadness, fear of the future--all at once. This seems so emotionally mature to me (something I haven't been all that familiar with!)
As to forgiveness--I read a definition that struck me as very useful in making me WANT to forgive. If I can remember it, the definition was "forgiveness is giving up the hope of a different, or better, past." This somehow struck me as something that yes, I really did want to do, so that I accept that past and move forward. This may or may not help you, but for me it resonated.
Keep in touch, NLF, I think you are about 5-6 months ahead of me on the path. Helping each other on this board seems to be a very healthy thing to me.
