You wrote "...h would take advice from a female friend about our marriage when she had never met me and only know h a few months" I do not think it is such a mystery that MLCers turn for advice to the most dimwitted, clueless types of people. People who have recovered from MLC say they were terribly confused. Considering that, it seems reasonable to me that they would seek out ONLY those who would not challenge them or try to make them feel guilty. (My H is taking advice from a 30 something, single guy who he works with, who finally, after years of loneliness, is dating an unstable, needy girl. 'shucks, those pearls of wisdom H is hearing have to be better than any thoughts from a pastor, shrink, counselor...or old best friend!
To me trying to apply DB principles is rather like what mom used to say, "if you can't say anything good, then don't say anything at all". I certainly can not validate someone who is acting like a idiot! I'll have to leave that to his "friends".
nlf
You must grow in patience when you meet with great wrongs, and they will then be powerless to vex your mind. ---Leonardo da Vinci
