Thanks for stalking, I mean lurking. I'll add 'Every Man's Battle' to my list. I just bought "Mars and Venus in The Bedroom" last night so I'm going to read that next.
I see my struggle as just that, MY struggle. It's all about me. What my W chooses to do, how she feels, what she does, that's about her. She's human and prone to sin just like the rest of us. My struggles, challenges, and tempatations are most important to ME, because I alone will answer for them, come the judgement day.
I'm not easily tempted by OW, although I am a sucker for a pretty face. My temptation is more along the lines of I'm tired of her not being able to love me completely. I deserve it, I've earned it, I want it now, and if I don't get it soon, I'm gonna leave her.
It's interesting how God works though. I know He's doing what he can to help me, to guide me. I already mentioned that I could'nt find the financial separation agreement. But here's another one. Even if I did decide to leave my W, I have noplace to go. My house, fully furnished house, is rented out to some friends of ours while they're building their own home. So I'm at least here for probably another 12 months.
A lot of things can change in 12 months.
God Bless,
COG
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