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[COG]

Nicola,

My H thought he was a great lover (not implying anything here, COG!), but there were a lot of things he did that I didn't like...and I never said anything.

Oh, I'm sure my W could say the same thing. She did tell me a few things she did'nt like, but mostly I think she resented me because I could'nt read her mind. That's changed throughout our R, but I don't know if it would change under the covers. I don't know if she's able to be that open. I sure would like to find out though.

Anyway, as our R deteriorated, I didn't consciously withhold sex, but my desire waned to nothing.

That's pretty normal. That's why I've been so patient, and focused on the R instead of the physical intimacy.

Oh, I said I was trying, and I did make some token efforts, but I did not COMMIT to changing.

My W has committed to changing, she just has'nt committed to a time frame for changing.

COG, I think you're going to have to lay it on the line with her. She needs to know that this is a deal-breaker for you (if it is).

She know's it's a deal breaker. It's a deal breaker for her too. We've had several talks about it. Open, honest, mature talks. She knows I'm ready to go either way, she knows I want more, and I'll move on eventually if things don't get hopping.

I'm taking this one step at a time, one day at a time, and I am not afraid.

God Bless,

COG