PLEASE don't get mad at me or become defensive. I do not know your wife so my comments are not to put her down in any way.
As I have already shared with you in previous posts, I made my Husband absolutely miserable because of my lack of desire in the bedroom.
He told me recently that I made him feel so undesirable and unattractive in the past because of the lack of physical intimacy.
I also made other people more important then my Husband. I was very involved in different circles and I also made Christmas into a huge ordeal and made the rest of the family miserable.
COG I am the first to admit how screwed up I had things in my head. It only changed because I began to listen to my Husband and began to see the pain in his face and his heart.
Your wife may be a wonderful woman, BUT if you read the books I have recommended you will see that a woman works differently then a man does in the bedroom. Men are usually ready to go most of the time. A woman takes her time and sometimes almost has to be coaxed into it.
It is like jumping into a swimming pool. Once you take that first step you find out that you actually like it, it's just getting to that point.
COG it is selfishness and I know how hard you have worked to get to this place but settleing isn't always the answer either.
You deserve to be loved wholey and fully.
How do we get your wife to listen and actually hear what you are saying?
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
