Now that she's read the website with you, she can go back and look through it on her own. I think you're wise to back off now--you guys have discussed it, and she recognizes that she needs to take some steps out of her comfort zone and that you aren't pressuring her to do that before she's ready.
FWIW, I didn't know how to tell my H to FO when he was being judgmental or controlling, either. I was afraid that if I told him how I really felt, "something bad" would happen. I don't even know what I feared, really. Anyway, I don't know if that gives any insight into what your W feels or not, but there it is.
