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[COG]

Brandnewday,

My humblest apologies for ignoring you. I've read many of your posts, and don't usually respond because, well you pretty much say it right and complete so there's not much to add or debate.

If you keep on telling her what you need and she is listening and not doing anything about it do you not find yourself being ignored?
Do you not find this behavior selfish?

Well she does'nt really ignore me, she's just not able, or willing, to fulfill my needs. So whats the next step. What can I do? She is the perfect W in all other aspects, bar none. I can push, pull, and complain, which will result in another separation for us. Or, I can be patient, supportive, and proactive. I try not to add pressure to the sitch, but at the same time she needs to know how I really feel about it. So I do my best to bring up the subject at the appropriate times, in non-confrontational ways. I describe how it feels when I'm rejected by her, when she stops me from caressing her, etc. I describe how it makes me feel like a leper or something. She gets it, she knows it hurts me, but she's just not able to do anything about it.

Please don't get me wrong, 90 percent of my time on this earth is spent with joy in my heart. I'm a happy guy with a very fun life. I have so many other interests that my life does not revolve around sex.

I am sharing these things with you because it is my own opinion that your wife needs to just take the plunge and do it.
Kinda like stepping off of a diving board.

Well, according to her she has. We had many a makeout session for a period of about 6 months, ML a couple of times. She understands how important it is for me, but she's just not able to do it. Side Note: She has said that when she was little, her mom told her that sex was dirty. That could be significant, or maybe not. But she obviously did'nt grow up thinking sex was wonderful, probably the opposite.

She keeps working on herself. I'm not sure what exactly she's doing, but she says she's working on it. She said that during our separation too, and I never could see what she was doing, but she obviously did something because we're back together.

So, I go on trusting her, believing in her, supporting her, encouraging her, being the best friend I can be. I think it's the right attitude. We ended our separation and are really very compatible together. So I'm hoping the same attitude will dissolve whatever needs to be dissolved, and nuture whatever needs nuturing, so that we can run naked through the daisy's again.

Thanks for posting.

God Bless,

COG