I know you and I didn't hit it off to well several months ago but I do read the things you write to others here and i have noticed one thing in your sitch and albeit you seem ok with it I don't believe you are, not for a minute. For months and months you and your wife are reconciled but there is no sex. She leads you on, teases you and then drops the ball every time.you are just best friends. are you sure she has the same goals as you do in this marriage? yes you both may love each other but you are a frustrated man and are getting no satisfaction from living like a monk.maybe you should buy the sex starved marriage book it may help you and your wife.