This gave me a bit of a chuckle - it does seem that there are plenty of "manuals" to help you "fix" something to get it to the point of "working" but not much in the way of reading once you get there. Might be because each situation from there become's pretty unique...
But, COG, I think you put it well. When you learn how to "interact", A/V, listen, and DO - While having your own goals/ambitions that you are willing to share, it seems to get better and better. And, you ARE onto something with the not being a doormat. Good stuff.
One book I DID like - and it will give you ideas for keeping it going is "How to Date Your Wife" by Cronin. Simple and based on survey responses. A lot of "duh, I know that" stuff, but also has some unique ideas as well.
Hope that helps.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
