Wow, COG, you have a lot of strength!
Its so wonderful that the 2 of you are starting so slowwwly--returning to the dating/engagement without the urgency of the first time. This is going to keep building to a fiery climax! are you able to enjoy the anticipation? to prolong the fulfillment? You know you will get there eventually; are you planning the 'big night'? Something special and romantic for when it does happen (like a second, better wedding night)?
what i wouldn't give to be in your shoes with my H! Someday, I pray! good luck and hang in there!
jacqm