Quote: You probably know what I'm going to zero in on in this comment -- how does accepting HIM ever compromise YOUR integrity? Accepting him doesn't mean agreeing with everything he says and does or always approving of him or never getting mad at him. I know you know this-- so what did you mean by that statement?
You know what, Lil? You are exactly right. Sometimes, it might feel like he is asking me to accept him at the cost of crossing a line that violates my integrity. The truth is - if I feel that way, it is because of my own developmental or differentiation level. Thank you for pointing that out. I should know better, but I am going thru a whiny phase.
Quote: The fact that your guests were really nice doesn't eliminate the possibility of a jealous reaction-- jealous in the Four envy sense-- "other people have it better, easier, their life is simpler, they get along, don't have the issues we do, if they have issues, the issues aren't divisive, etc."
This doesn't ring true. My H is a 9, through and through. Envy is generally not one of his weaknesses. He is all about peace and retreating within himself. Even if he given to jealousy about other people's apparent peaceful lives, this wouldn't apply to my sis and her husband currently as they are in the throes of infertility and have been undergoing treatments for over 2 years now.
Thanks, Lil, for nailing me to the wall on the integrity issue. You are right.
-- how does accepting HIM ever compromise YOUR integrity? Accepting him doesn't mean agreeing with everything he says and does or always approving of him or never getting mad at him. I know you know this-- so what did you mean by that statement? 
