Thanks for hosting my pity party, guys. I think I confused things by combining two different issues. The ‘picking at me’ issue was addressed immediately, and while I didn’t get an apology, he heard me loud and clear.
The other question – one that I was hoping to get more feedback on (especially from the men), is the ‘you don’t accept me for who I am’ bit. My perception is that I do see and understand him as much as he will let me, I try to accept as much of it as I can as long as it doesn’t compromise my integrity. I think its time to go back and read Schnarch again. We seem to both feel engulfed by one another. We have to dig ourselves out of this, and I guess I am the one who will have to bring the tools.
I am still in a somewhat altered state of mind. Things feel a little tense between us, but I am unable to distinguish between perception and reality. I asked H not to needle me the other night, and he said I was imagining it. I guess I will just give it a few days and see how I feel. I genuinely think this may be about my perception. I should mention that we have continued to have sex, and its been great.
