You have a lot of thoughts and emotions swirling around right now. That part is probably the PMS talking. For now, deal with the behavior and the behavior only. Hey honey - berating me with barbs in front of family - uncool, don't do it. I'm not mad but I need to have a moment to collect myself before feeling close again. Now is not the time to deal with recreational, cultural or style differences. As far as liking him for "who he is" he will read any discussion of these differences right after chastising him for bad behavior (and it was) as not accepting him. Those are topics for another day and probably for counseling. For now, stick to the behavior issue. If you have said your piece and feel he understood you then leave it alone and focus on getting to a place where you can enjoy each other's company without discomfort of having had that discussion. Leave the rest alone for now - it will do more harm than good.
