You need to be strong enough and confident enough that she can enjoy the passion without needing to be a caretaker for your emotional fragility on this issue, if that makes any sense.
Do you think you are strong and confident enough for this to be the case or will any attempts at intimacy be too much about you and protecting your ego? If you can't do it and hold onto yourself and your happiness in light of rejection, then probably it will be too much about you for her to get what she wants and needs from intimacy. So, maybe you are best off waiting until YOU are really more ready for the emotional risks. But, quit making it about her fragility in your own head. She seems pretty strong to me, strong enough to act on her lack of fulfillment and do something about it, albeit temporarily and not in a particularly healthy way.
