I'm really not sure what you are expecting from her in terms of encouragement. Right now, I don't see that you have given her much reason to believe you are capable and/or interested in giving her what she wants (which is probably a lot like what mamabear just said she wanted.)
What reasons you do give her she seems to respond positively to:
She asked with a smile "What was that? Did you just lick me?"
So, how much encouragement do you want??? Imagine things from her POV. "Gee, I really want a passionate love affair like I had with OM, but I'll have to give that up and rejoice about a lick on the cheek. Hey that's an improvement though and I really will appreciate it. I smiled, but I don't want to scare him away. He is so tentative and reluctant to have really hot sex as it is..."
Going along contentedly and happily in a sexless M is just reinforcing her believe that coming back to you means giving up the passion.
It is not frequency, it is quality and intensity that is important. You were on the right track with the whole touching versus feeling thing. Have you read PM yet????
