OT, if I posted that, well, then I don't actually remember it. She told me that she loves me and realized that she'd made a mistake in all this but to my knowledge, she has yet to say she's either falling in love, or in love with me again. She HAS said she loved me more in the past 2 weeks than the past several years if THAT counts for something.
That's part of the problem because as usual, my W did utter those famous words 5 months ago...I love you but I'm not IN love with you...so basically, we could very well be right back where we started again if all that's going on is that OM is out of the picture. That's why I AM still focused on making things better, because I did accept that OM was NOT the overall issue and today's sitch proves that to be true. If he WAS the problem from the start then we would have intimacy and all the other things that go with a good marriage. The fact is that we do not and it's due to the issuse still facing us, some having to do with the A and many more not.
While I do THINK we are in a place in our R that truly IS better than 5 months ago, I am not sure about that and thus my hesitation in certain things. Of course, I fully realize that my "hesitation" in certain things may have contributed to the original issues and that's the catch 22. I have to figure out just what to go for, and when, and what truly needs more time before it's appropriate.
I feel she's getting there and that I am making the right choices to best ensure a lasting R. We'll see.
