Read the rest of DR it has a lot of different stuff in it than DB - I think it will make a lot more things a little clearer for you and give you some different ideas
in regards to going to back to where you were this won't happen no matter how comfortable you get simply because when it begins to happen you will immediately recognise it for what it is and do something about it
and your wife returning but not saying it is because she loves/cares for you or you are the one actions speak louder than words our behaviours give us away much more than our words she is saying a lot you are just waiting for it to be spoken
